LOVE

Love exists only in the present moment. It comes from what you have been thinking or doing. You make up your mind to love or not to love on a moment to moment basis. You really can love whomever or whatever you decide you want to love. Love is given. It can not be demanded, coerced or bought.

You can learn to love yourself by loving another. When you love your partner, and she loves you back, it strengthens the neural network that says you are loveable. If you get enough of that love you will eventually come to truly love yourself. Then you are able to give yourself the love you want and in turn you can give her unconditional love. Eventually this can bring you to the stage where you now have the knowing that you are completely loveable and it no longer matters if she loves you. This makes the love between you even more powerful.

The difficulty is that many of us were conditioned not to love ourselves. As a child we were criticized and told many more times how wrong we were than we were told how right we were. We grew to think that we couldn’t be loved simply for who we were. This kept us from trusting in love itself. In not trusting love, we tend to live in fear, which represses love.

 No one other human being is going to provide everything we want in a lover. You must be the lover of you.

From Top Gun Pilot to Top Lover

To be a top gun fighter pilot requires intelligence, courage, commitment, rigorous training, continual practice, expertise, and constant striving for excellence. Being a top lover demands the same.

Top Gun Love: A Fighter Pilot’s Manual for Sizzling Sex and Romantic Relationships shows men and women who want to have a more fulfilling, loving sexual relationship how to achieve their highest potential.

Top Gun Love coaches the ones who need coaching the most: the men. Written in a male friendly format of a jet fighter manual, the book is illustrated with stories and anecdotes of a combat fighter pilot. These stories are direct allegories to sexual relationships.

Women, often have a hard time getting their resistant mates to read them. Top Gun Love makes it easy with a winning selling point: a fighter pilot shows men how to get more sex. It connects with male readers who are interested in learning the secrets of becoming an expert lover and with female readers who want lasting relationships, as well as greater sexual intimacy.

To have consistent great sex, you have to have a great relationship. To have a great relationship you have to know how you operate, how your partner operates and how you both operate together. By offering clear and concise explanations of how and why men and women act the way they do, Top Gun Love provides the foundation for satisfying sex and enduring relationships. Even with this understanding there may be something lacking. Many people want to be more spiritual but don’t know how to make sex and relationship sacred. Top Gun Love shows them how.

Although there are lots of relationship books, sex manuals and books explaining gender from a scientific point of view, none are as comprehensive. With a spiritual slant, Top Gun Love combines sex tips, relationship guidance, in depth analysis of the latest research into male and female brain and biochemistry. Ultimately this book will become a reference guide for all couples.

A synergistic fusion of Frank’s fighter pilot background and extensive study of love, sex and relationship with Judith Claire’s 31 years of counseling has produced this valuable resource in a truly original presentation.

Frank and Judith walk the walk. They have used the tools and techniques of this book to create the love life of their dreams. It is their desire to share the wisdom of their experience with others who want to find the same bliss.

We’re Baaack!

We have been working very hard on our book and are making great progress, so we haven’t been posting.

We eagerly await your comments and questions. We want to know what you want to know. So if a new post triggers some questions, please let us know what you think. — F

COURTSHIP — 3 IN A SERIES — DATING

WHAT ARE THE OPENING MOVES?        

The opening moves are almost always done silently, but even after speaking, pay careful attention to the other sensory cues, smell, vision, touch, and voice tone. How she moves, what facial expressions she has, what tone of voice she uses, how she postures. All this resonates deep in the psyche, far below the level of consciousness.

All of our facial expressions and posturing movements are stimulated by signals from the brain’s limbic system and the reptilian core. Remember, these are ancient parts of the brain that operate well below the level of consciousness. The reptilian brain is the ancient control center for most automatic body functions, including the beginnings of emotional response. The limbic brain monitors what’s going on externally and internally and makes them harmonious. The limbic brain controls the muscles. The face is the only place where the muscles connect directly to the skin.

Note

That means that all the signals you are sending

and receiving are coming from a deep place

in your subconscious. The smiles or frowns,

the lifting of an eyebrow, the shrug of the

shoulder, the turn away or toward, are all

stimulated by a subconscious signal. These cues

often affect us much more powerfully than

 what the other person might be saying.

When our limbic system gets in tune with another’s, there is a resonant phenomenon that allows us to connect on that subconscious level. Feelings can be contagious, while thoughts are not. Have your ever walked into a room where there was a person who was glowing with excitement. As you stayed in that person’s presence you felt your mood rise and enliven. Similarly when we are around someone who is deeply depressed, it is difficult not to become sucked down into that depression as well. This is limbic resonance. All of this, in the attention phase, happens in the blink of an eye.

More to come … Frank & Judith

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Rumi

Lover’s don’t finally meet somewhere

They’re in each other all along.